#1 Self-acceptance

The worst loneliness is to not be comfortable with yourself.”-Mark Twain

Once you start accepting yourself, you become more spontaneous and natural.

Self-acceptance is what allows you both to be authentic. You both can finally relax, and allow more of the inner, real you to be seen.

And naturally, your partner then feels accepted. …


You meet someone. They are genuinely interested in you, so they get your attention. You tease each other. You go on dates. You start talking exclusive. You both decide to give it a chance.

The fun part and the secure feeling of a relationship. You become yourself in front of them, and they do too. You feel they charm you rather than you charm them, and they feel you charm them rather than they do charm you. You Becoming more secure. They do something gross in front of you; you scold them, but then you go laugh about it somewhere…


For approximately 80 years, the notion of what a man should be like has been heavily influenced by the idea of ‘cool’.

THE COOL MAN

The cast of seductively cool figures includes Humphrey Bogart, Jean-Paul Belmondo, Marcello Mastroianni, James Bond, Bob Dylan,…

The cool man doesn’t try too hard; you don’t see them floundering about in a panic — but they succeed anyway.

They are physically confident, they can scale a mountain or stroll down a deserted street in the middle of the night; if they have to kill someone, they will do it neatly with minimal fuss;

they don’t worry, they are…


Trait number #1: Leadership skills

Women love a man with leadership skills and a man with a busy life. Don’t get this misconstrued with a busy life: he’s too busy to even have a relationship. Still, you are busy enough to be firm on what times you are available to fit her in. Because at the end of the day, she does like being a priority.

But women don’t like being the first priority always. They want to see you assertive and establishing things.

Leadership skills are essential. It shows that you have status and know what you’re talking about and where you are heading…


10 Questions to ask yourself

For the partners also check out this: https://www.regain.us/advice/general/advice-for-dating-a-vulnerable-narcissist/

Wikipedia has a simple explanation of Vulnerable narcissism — Wikipedia

But let’s go a level deeper

Let me ask you this

  1. Did you first have a series of relationships with people you are very interested in, that ended?
  2. Did you start thinking because they are “out of your league” (popular & outgoing, good looking, etc.), they were hard to influence, so you begin to believe that even if I say the right things, at the right time, I can never have the security I need?
  3. Did you begin to compare yourself to your ‘competitors’ who you perceive…


Don’t hang up on the idea of having a particular deadline before you date again. But also work on your self-awareness, so you could know when it feels right. And also, work on your self-management so you don’t hurt other people on your post-breakup recovery path.

And you might have just done that. You rushed into dating someone who might or might not have been a great partner for you, to fulfill your mind’s desire for company. Then she asks you where this is going, you tell her ‘I’m not at the right time in my life….’ …


“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot, but make it hot by striking.”

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Imagine a fly buzzing around your room


Biden Sector Playbook — Risk (and Opportunities) for Incumbents and Startups across 7 Sectors of the Economy

Tech

Expect more investment in R&D and technology, including 5G. and more favorable immigration policy. Proposals to reduce offshoring; higher corporate taxes; and continued tough on China trade stance

Healthcare

ACA restoration/expanding coverage; public option; drug pricing reform; government purchase of critical medical supplies; investment in R&D and technology (includes biotech); and expanding access to long-term care services in local settings

Eliminate tax incentives to produce drugs overseas; new incentives to produce drugs in America; higher corporate taxes

Energy

Net-zero emission subsidies/plans; banning offshore drilling; no…


Don’t hang up on the idea of having a particular deadline before you date again. But also work on your self-awareness, so you could know when it feels right. And also, work on your self-management so you don’t hurt other people on your post-breakup recovery path.

And you might have just done that. You rushed into dating someone who could’ve been a great partner for you, to fulfill your mind’s desire for company. Then she (or he) asks you where this going………………. we all can guess what happened next.

But why do we do that?

The mind is the problem…

You may feel that circumstances outside of your control (a breakup…


When you view rejection as revealing something about who you are, you carry the heavy burden of that rejection.

Your basic beliefs contribute to whether you recover from, or remain mired in, the pain of rejection. You might know how to cope with rejection’s emotional hurt.

But sometimes, rejections can linger on and cause problems for your future relationships

But before I delve into what hinders recovery from a breakup, let’s look at what I consider the 4 core foundations of an everlasting loving healthy relationship

#1 Self-awareness: To know whether you are compatible with someone, you have to know who YOU really are. After all, how you would that X is compatible with Y if you don’t know what X really is.

#2 Many things in…

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Dating & Relationship Coach. Deep interest in Social Psychology, FinTech, Deep Tech, and Quant Finance Nerd

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